How do you know when it is over? How do you know when to let go? I love my wife although she has said in the past that I like the my idea of her. Maybe that is true. I have had an image in my head of who she is and when she steps outside of this it unnerves me. So maybe I have not loved her like I should and that is a major part of the problem. She hides part of herself from me. The question is can I learn to accept her and her ideas that I don’t like. Maybe I can learn to grow up and mature and be okay in more of a detached relationship.