Being too available in a relationship is not a good thing. A relationship with some people is a fine line–not available enough and the relationship can dissipate, too available and the other person can feel claustrophobic. My fear has always been that if I am not available enough we will end up with completely separate lives. I have a very hard time imagining that my wife would even care that I was not around. But I have no choice. I have to be brave and take the chance. I cannot snuff out my marriage because of my insecurities.