I think one problem that I have had for a very long time is assuming my wife is like me. Duh. After 20 years you think I would get that but I guess I am dense. I assumed that she would show the same passion for me that I show her. How stupid of me. This has caused me much heartache. I am the “feeler” and she is not. I have heard this out there as in that I have a higher “temperature” than her which is a good way of putting it. I have expected passion where I should not expect it. My wife is very content and very controlled in her emotions. I don’t know if she has the emotions but can’t let them out but I suspect that she does not have that level of emotion. I am sentimental. I have a very good memory and this is a blessing and a curse. I guess we have reverse roles of the stereotypical man/woman couples. I think this is more common than conventional wisdom would have us believe. It is because of this I have found my self-esteem eroding. I don’t blame her at all I have just looked for positive feedback in places where I should never had looked for it in the first place. As such, I have let me self think that I am doing something wrong or she doesn’t have it for me. This is not to say there is not some truth there because I have been doing a lot of things wrong for a long time. I just have to learn that she shows her love in small, subtle ways not in over the top gestures.